This issue is making my life a nightmare...?

Yeah, I know this isn't what you want to hear, but just ignore your hands. I get that you're super self conscious, & no offense but that's always a huge turn off. Just get over it. I'm not trying to be mean, but seriously. Nobody even cares about the size of your hands and feet, so just forget about it. You think that everyones looking at your hands? They've got better things to do, I promise. Don't worry about it!